"The only way to get behind is to go through it." Robert Frost said.

We all postpone things from time to time, we think we should do them, but we never do them, we create an obstacle that we can't understand. The feeling of "I should" never turns into "I do", it can't take action, it leaves us where we are, it doesn't move us forward.

Greek philosophers gave this situation a name thousands of years ago: "akrasia". In Greek, it means lack of command or order. Some sources also define it as lack of control or inadequacy. The feeling and thought of "I should do" about an action that we think will be beneficial for ourselves, but not deciding to do it, remaining passive, not taking action.

In other words, if we say "I should do it" but do our best not to do it, if we constantly prevent ourselves, what we experience is akrasia.

It is a slightly different situation than procrastination, or procrastination. In procrastination, we decide to do something, and even there is a deadline, but we delay it consciously or unconsciously - there is a decision-making situation. In other words, if one of the tasks on our daily to-do list is to send a meeting invitation, and if we do not send this meeting invitation for hours and spend the hours with other tasks; this is procrastination.

Akrasia is deeper.

Potatoes or Pilates? Dreaming of starting your own business or trying to start your own business? A new job or continuing with the current one? Continuing in an uneasy marriage or getting divorced? It can also be a dilemma. Saying “Yes, I have to do something, I have to do it” and resisting doing it is equal to akrasia.

There may be many reasons (I will use the term “you” from this point on):

• We may not know or define what we want.
• You may think that taking action is not related to where you want to go.
• The result you will achieve or the action itself may not have any meaning for you.
• “Must, should” may have been cooked up and put in front of you by others.
• You may think that your chances of success are very low.
• You may have an iron deficiency, you may lack motivation, excitement and energy (as you can see, we can list many reasons).

So what can you do?

There are many strategies of course, I want to draw attention to the first step.

First step: find and understand the root cause. Stop and think, define the obstacle. You may be experiencing what I wrote above, or there may be a completely different reason. It is difficult to take action without understanding the reason and the obstacle. After defining the reason, it will be easier to take steps to decide whether to stay at zero point or not. Yes, the only way to go beyond is to go through it. But first, the intention to set off must be formed, and the intention must turn into the action of setting off. Therefore, I wanted to emphasize the importance of defining the “why”, that is, the “obstacle”. If you cannot define the reason, it may be useful to get support from an expert.